For me, the idealized (Platonic) norm should be ethical. When the choice is thrust upon you to decide to delay gratification isn't the choice easy? Discuss both implications of this open-ended assumption.
Yes, I agree there is a profound wisdom found in the forgiveness of one's self and others, but the ridiculous responsion is part of the equation. If you disagree, I forgive you. For what it's worth. Expand on that for a bit while I read a little Walt Whitman.