No man is hurt but by himself.
Sometimes by how he interprets what happens to him. If he focuses on how it could have been better, he will be hurt. If he focuses on how it could have been worse, he will be happy.
But is life that simple? Is it that easy to stop wallowing every time we feel drained? Cognitive dissonance may be tough to deal with, but practical steps may allow us to cater to it.
Life is filled with decisions, and choices (as a general rule) tend to cause dissonance.
For instance, suppose you had to decide whether to accept a job in a lovely area of the country or turn down the occupation so you could be near your family and friends. Either way, you would experience dissonance. If you took the position, you would miss your loved ones; if you turned the job down, you would yearn for the beautiful streams, valleys, and mountains.
Both options have their good points and negative points. The rub is that deciding cuts off the possibility that you can enjoy the perks of the unchosen alternative. Yet, it convinces you that you must accept the disadvantages of the chosen alternative.
People have a number of ways to reduce dissonance that is aroused by having to decide something. One thing they can do is to change the behavior. This step is often very challenging, so people typically employ a variety of mental maneuvers. A commonly followed way to reduce dissonance is to increase the attractiveness of the chosen alternative and to decrease the desirability of the rejected option. This is known as “spreading apart the alternatives.”
- Diogenes (412-323 BC)
Friends Among Us (2020) by Philosopher Daniel Sanderson
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Sometimes I also come up blank, rarely so do I not have a responsion or something to counter with, being witty, contradictory or clever. When wit fails and stairs are blank, sometimes the best response is from a blank slate. The canvas is yours my friend, the only theme is a pedadoggy!