and yet we all expire
As a matter of self-preservation, a man needs good friends or ardent enemies, for the former instruct him and the latter take him to task.
- Diogenes (412-323 BC)
There are several ways to help you stop worrying about things that will only consume your limited time on earth. Pick one or try all of the mentioned things when you feel like your worry is senseless (spoiler alert, though: all worry is pointless).
1. Recognize the worry.
The instant you notice you are worrying, acknowledge it. Describe to yourself what you are fretting about. Ask yourself if there is something that you can do to manage whatever you are worried about. Ask yourself if being distressed is serving any purpose.
2. Take some kind of action.
List down several things you want to memorize to do if the things that you are worried about occur. This will stop your mind from difficulties trying to contemplate all the things which lead to more worry. Just jot them down, even if they seem trivial.
3. Distract yourself.
If you’ve asked yourself the queries above but can’t let go of your worries, momentarily distract yourself. Calculatingly shift your mind’s attention by reading a book, listening to a guided meditation, calling a friend, or watching a movie.
4. Create a daily practice.
To battle, the pointless practice of worrying, create a daily exercise that helps you calm your mind. Establish a morning routine of stretching, meditating, and writing or an evening routine to help you prepare for sleep. Pledge to consistency over intensity as you create a daily practice that will help your mind rest when it’s time to rest. It will also help you observe when you are trapped in the worry loop so you can get out more quickly.
5. Get present.
The things you are worried about haven’t happened. You’ve moved into the future … a future that you cannot forecast or concern yourself in or out of. Snap yourself back to the present by placing your hands on your chest or by taking a deep breath. Feel your feet on the ground.
How something ends up never depends on how much you worry about it. When you are perturbed and working your way out of worry, be kind to yourself. Oncoming worry may feel like it’s out of your power, but you can alleviate your mind out of it, and after some time spent deliberately letting go of worry, it will subside.
Friends Among Us (2020) by Philosopher Daniel Sanderson
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Sometimes I also come up blank, rarely so do I not have a responsion or something to counter with, being witty, contradictory or clever. When wit fails and stairs are blank, sometimes the best response is from a blank slate. The canvas is yours my friend, the only theme is a pedadoggy!